tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149223352943003377.post5221397679921290461..comments2013-04-02T12:00:43.187-07:00Comments on Family, Fun and Frugality!: Deep Thoughtsstephmbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01109382649862653924noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149223352943003377.post-84907473152385183112010-09-22T21:23:58.535-07:002010-09-22T21:23:58.535-07:00Thanks for sharing Kerry. I know you understand an...Thanks for sharing Kerry. I know you understand and had a much more difficult time than I ever did. <br />As for the "handed a baby"...ya, that's a tough one. That's one I will never know either. It's one of the many reasons why we aren't having any more children. We were told that after having 2 c-sections we would not have the option to do a VBAC ever again. Any more children would come via scheduled c-section. Just knowing that I would go through that surgery (and recovery) again wasn't something I was going to look forward to. I ENVY the women who had vaginal births. My heart aches to have been able to push out my child and have them lay on my belly. <br />After almost 3 years, it's still something I have to work on. I guess we all have our demons. :)stephmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01109382649862653924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149223352943003377.post-55733395882319501002010-09-22T12:28:04.150-07:002010-09-22T12:28:04.150-07:00I'm glad you pointed me to this post, buddy. ...I'm glad you pointed me to this post, buddy. I don't have to tell you how horrific my birth experience (the only one I will ever have) was. And any decent, well-educated psychologist will tell you that you have every right to feel cheated or guilty regarding a not-so-perfect scenario. What could you have done differently? What made certain things happen? Those questions haunt me still...almost two years later. I can go on and on about how I know I didn't do anything to deserve the experience I had, but I would be lying through my teeth if I believed that 100%.<br /><br />The doc you saw? WHACKJOB. ADHD? Where she pulled that out of I have no idea (I only have a bachelor's degree in psych, and *I* would never equate PPD with ADHD - like at all). I know this isn't your style, and it's beside the point now, years later, but you really should have told that psychologist WHY you weren't seeing her again. What a ding dong.<br /><br />Wish I could have found this article online, but I guess maybe it's better that I didn't. The last paragraph you quoted contained the following (partial) sentence...<br /><br />"I will look down at my baby -whether he is handed to me on my belly or from behind a curtain as my body is sewn shut"<br /><br />...yeah, that kind of stung. I've never been "handed" a baby. And I never will be. My babies were briefly shown to me (in a tear-filled stupor, and I only know this because there are photos) before they had breathing tubes shoved down their throats and were whisked off to the NICU.<br /><br />Like you said, we need to be thankful for the huge blessing(s) we have received. I really, really, really need to work on that.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing!Jeff and Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09397969976683407944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149223352943003377.post-39640001376398985782010-08-30T20:21:17.273-07:002010-08-30T20:21:17.273-07:00Thanks Robin. I think many women end up carrying a...Thanks Robin. I think many women end up carrying a little guilt, or disappointment, on their birth experiences. What we need to try and do is ever so thankful for the huge blessing we have recieved. It's hard...I know. :) I love you too.stephmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01109382649862653924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7149223352943003377.post-81406707347517380712010-08-30T13:57:32.029-07:002010-08-30T13:57:32.029-07:00Thanks for sharing that, Stephanie. I am sorry you...Thanks for sharing that, Stephanie. I am sorry you have struggled. I love you dearly and I am always here for you. Sometimes I feel bad for being induced both times...like I am not strong enough to let things happen when they are meant to happen. Love you!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03717163088711054570noreply@blogger.com